Within the education of children , an important part is knowing how to discover and understand emotions in their day-to-day lives. We are going to analyze how emotional intelligence can be measured and how to educate your emotions.
The first thing we must do to educate emotions is to follow a good emotional education program . The effects of these programs have been shown to be very positive on psychological adjustment, on school performance and also on social relationships, reducing negative behaviors.
This factor will help us in our social relationships since we can adjust our behavior to how others feel.
How to teach to channel feelings?
This is an important point in emotional education, as it will allow us to positively influence their reactions . We should not allow children to kick, yell, or have a tantrum. When they do it and see that there is a positive reinforcement to that action with greater attention or directly achieving their goal, we are encouraging them to continue doing it.
We must express to them that this type of behavior is not going to get them anywhere and that the only thing they are going to achieve is that they are sent to be alone for a while. Only if we eliminate the positive part of a child having a tantrum can he begin to learn and regulate that emotion.
In this way, they will be able to be aware that if the child feels angry or sad, it is an emotion that will pass and they will be able to control it much better.
When did we start educating on emotions?
There is no set age to start with this type of education and it can be taught to control emotions from a young age . Since they perceive emotions we can try to help them control and learn to tolerate frustration.
You have to try to help them understand why they do things one way or another. For example: “You cannot touch the oven because it is very hot and you will burn yourself, you will hurt yourself.”
The first step is for the little ones to learn to recognize emotions and to know how to differentiate them . It is not the same to be happy than sad or angry, or that something scares you. They must learn to verbalize their reactions and tolerate frustration, and it is very good that it is done in the first years of life.
What emotional capacities should be strengthened?
Depending on the model we have followed, it would be good to follow the following emotional intelligence factors:
- Learn to perceive your own emotions and those of others (empathy).
- Learn to understand emotions , since feeling them is not the same as understanding them. Also the emotions of others.
- Get those emotions to positively influence the child’s behavior.
- Learn to manage emotions and channel them in a healthy way for their behavior.
We should focus on these basic pillars of emotional competencies to educate children emotionally. An environment of trust must be fostered so that there is good communication between the child and his parents / educators. It is about the child, from a very young age, having the possibility to communicate and say how they feel.
It is good to ask children how they feel , but also ask them about how other people (dad, mom, their little brother, a little friend…) feel. These kinds of things are easy and should be learned from a young age thanks to the help of parents and educators.